Hills are too cold, beaches are too warm, and plains are too bland. Domestic travel is too mundane and international too expensive. Road journeys are so exhausting and flight sickness is so uncomfortable. Five Star stay is too exorbitant and anything lesser is too pedestrian! What seems like a never ending list of travel troubles are only some of the many troubles of a ‘tantrum traveller’. The spoilsport in the group, the worst nightmare of fellow traveller, the finicky one … so who is this tantrum traveller? If there is so much trouble travelling, why do they travel at all? With such infinite list of conditions how do they plan and execute trips? This piece brings you all the answers and some more. So here goes – confessions of a tantrum traveller from the word go.

Who is a ‘Tantrum Traveller’?

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Tantrum Traveller is a rather rare species with unique characteristics that can be a fellow travellers nightmare and can be a reason for travel executives to quit jobs. Their sole aim in life is perfection and the means to reach the end is what brings out the worst in them. Every tiny detail needs to be re-checked to suit their trivial comforts and one little trouble can wreck their holiday. You could call them finicky, fussy, spoilsport but what truly defines them is their urge to travel and what sets them apart from the regular travellers is their tantrums. The reasons could be many. For some, it could merely be an OCD and the fear of booking a hotel with filthy washrooms, for others it could be the social media performance pressure, but there are a few whose travel tantrums are an outcome of incurable travel anxiety. Anxiety does get the worst of you and that’s what happens to them. Their tiny worries about sudden unfavourable situations escalate into travel anxiety and force them to re check details that accommodate their tiny troubles. So next time you meet a tantrum traveller, remember it could just be an anxious soul looking for a break from the exhausting routine.

Why Do They Travel At All?

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One could read, write, paint, run, play, pet, eat, and do a million things to amuse oneself. Then why do they travel? When the thought of a road journey through hills makes them nauseated and the sight of a flight at a distance makes them sick, why do they travel at all? Mind you, A Tantrum Traveller is a traveller first and a tantrum thrower later. It is the urge to be at a destination away from home that is the driving reason behind the whole situation. The azure blue waters of the beach destinations, the bright sunshine at the hill tops, the beautiful landscapes fill their heart and soul with happiness beyond measure. Travel is like a balm to their bruised soul. They know it’s not easy but they do it because they know the pain would be worth. All the flight fear would melt down into a soulful sunset by the beach, and that is what keeps them going.

How Do They Plan A Trip?

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The biggest challenge for our tantrum traveller is the ‘perfect plan’. While the days where parents’ LTC decided the travel destination are over, the decision to choose a perfect travel destination has to be made with a number of considerations. One might think of travel websites as a perfect help but not for the tantrum traveller who has trust issues with all that the travel websites have to offer. So how do they zero in on the destination? They research. Everything that the travel website offers is crosschecked by more reliable sources on the internet. The rest of the trip from flights to hotels to other details is planned with tinniest details matching their demands. While getting up too early can upset their system, staying up till late would spoil the next day; so a thousand flight schedules are hunted to find the perfect schedule that would suit their body clock. Unlike celebrities they have no gold mines to pay for luxury vacations, so all this needs to be done on a budget too. This requires the art of online bargaining. Planning the trip in pieces and comparing to the consolidated quote of the travel website is just one way of fitting your dream holiday in your budget. Once the tickets are booked, the reservations made and days marked on the calendar, then comes the packing bit. While the fellow traveller would be lucky to get some hare of space in the suitcase, the tantrum traveller would need the greater chunk to fit in all the ‘what if’ stuff. The list of ‘what if’ stuff could even end up snatching place in the fellow traveller’s separate suitcases. Multiple Xerox copies of tickets and documents, international roaming and travel calling cards, a first aid medicine box that could work as a pharmacy store are only some of the things they carry much to the annoyance of others.

The Real Deal

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While the plan is perfect, the intentions are best, does the tantrum traveller gets what they ordered? Do the perfect schedules on paper turn into an ideal holiday in real? The truth is, not always! Each holiday comes with its own set of situations that can neither be planned for and nor should be planned. In the sudden flip of situation lies the beauty of breaking a routine. From someone who has had everything from missed flights and free stays organized by airlines, to missing baggage and faulty bookings, spontaneous check in and check outs – the learning is loud and clear- the beauty of travel lies in spontaneity. While a minimal preparation is a must to have a decent vacation, overdoing would ruin the charm of exploring a place. When does the learning dawn on the tantrum traveller? When they sit by the beach and feel their soul fill with joy of watching a beautiful sunset which wasn’t part of the plan or may be when they miss a flight and end up exploring a country which wasn’t on their list. And how long does the writing on the wall stays bright and clear? Well only till the next trip plan begins!

Travel Conquests of this Tantrum Traveller:

With all the tantrum I’ve managed to explore Maldives, Dubai,  Kashmir, Himachal, Punjab, Delhi, Agra, Jaipur, Bombay, Goa, Kochi, Shillong, Andaman and Nicobar Islands.


An Assistant Professor by profession, Bhavneet Bhatti, has been teaching at the School of Communication Studies, Panjab University for past seven years. A PhD in ‘Feature Writing’ , she sees her work and pleasure revolve around expressing the niceties of life in words, ideas and art. From loving food to being overcritical of the ingredients and from dying to travel to being a tantrum traveller- ‘perfect’ food, ‘luxury’ travel and photographing it all, quite sum up her quality time. While her work revolves around research and teaching; her love of words keeps getting her back to writing about all things that brighten up life!